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I’m Going To Be A Auntie ❤️

So I can finally share some exciting news and say I’m going to be an auntie. Ben’s little sister Maezee is expecting her first little baby. 


We (me & Ben) are extremely happy for Mae and her partner Tony. We are very much looking forward to having cuddles but skipping the dirty nappies and sleepless nights this time round.

Riley is super excited to become a big cousin and I’m sure Layla is excited to have a little play friend. There will only be 13 months between them.

Exciting times ahead people. A new little bubba to come into the family ❤️

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Primary School Homework

My blog yesterday Should parents be allowed to take children out of school for holidays, talked about how I felt about being allowed to take my children out of school in the UK to go abroad on a family holiday.

Today I want to talk about the amount of homework primary school children get (ages 4-7).

Yesterday Riley came home from school (last day for the 2 week Easter break) with 5 pieces of homework, plus spellings and a reading diary to do. To be honest this seems to be the usual weekly amount at the moment. Is it just me or do you feel that is to much for a 7 year old? 

Homework in primary schools is not compulsory but it is officially encouraged. Seriously though does it have to be that much?

It’s been in the news lately about not being able to take children out of school during term time without facing a £60 fine per child, per parent so doesn’t that make school holidays even more important to have quality family time?

Not only that but what about parents who have more than one child at school or a baby (like myself) or even work full time for that matter! I don’t want to be spending what little quality time I have after school and during the school breaks doing homework!! 

I mean they are children, I personally think school holidays is for them to relax and unwind from all the hard work they have been doing and do what all kids want to do. Have fun and make memories. Memories are important and I be damned if my kids grow up and all they ever remember is going to school and do homework.

The only homework I will be doing with Riley this half term is his reading! If he wants to do his other homework that’s fine but it is his choice! 

I plan to have a fun half term making memories that both I and Riley can cherish in the future. That’s what having a family is all about after all!

Let me know what your views are on primary school children getting so much homework!

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Should parents be allowed to take children on holiday during term time?

So today the news has been all about the topic “should parents be allowed to take children on holiday during term time?”. After a father lost his Supreme Court battle. Click here to read the full story.

So I ask all you mummies, daddies and lovely people what’s your view, Should you be allowed to take your children on holiday during term time?

I personally think parents should be allowed to take their own children on holiday whenever they can afford. I will continue to take my children on holiday whenever I can afford regardless if it is in term time or not! I’d rather pay the fine then pay double to go away. 

I took my son Riley (6 at the time) on holiday last year to Turkey. During our trip he learnt about Turkish culture and traditions, saw real life sea turtles and walked along the sea turtles own protected beach. He also learnt about Turkish currency and swam in the sea from the boat we was on all the way to the beach to pick up a sea shell, I was so proud of his little achievement and everything he learned. He couldn’t of learned any of that sat in a classroom.

I do not deny children’s education is extremely important. I just think parents once a year or even every other year have the right to take their children on holiday. Family time and being able to create memories is just as important, but that’s just me.

I would love to hear your views.

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The Coil contraception & Smear Tests.

So yesterday I went and had the copper coil contraceptive fitted at my doctors. I had done a lot of research and previously went to my doctors for more advice before making my decision. Ben wont get the snip (vasectomy) so it was down to me.

My main reason was to obviously stop me getting pregnant and a contraceptive I didn’t have to make sure I took each day (I didn’t want the responsibility – I wanted to be lazy!)

But my biggest reason is with the copper coil doesn’t produce any hormones and from previous contraceptives (the pill & the implant) I had been taking my doctors deemed I was sensitive to the hormones in them. Basically I turned into a dragon and poor Ben had to put up with me.

So after talking through with both Ben (my partner) and my doctor I made an appointment to have it done. If you want to know more about the copper coil the pros and cons and how it works Click here to visit the NHS website.

The day of my appointment came (yesterday at 3:20pm) I am sat in the waiting room starting to feel abit nervous for what is about to happen I done all my research and knew it can feel uncomfortable and could have period like pains after woods but even still I wasn’t too sure what to expect. Then I feel myself saying in my head “Kayleigh get a grip you have given birth twice!”.

My name gets called, no running away now so in I go. I have to say the doctor was so nice and really put me at ease she explained exactly what would happen and how and made sure I was okay and answered all my questions I had. 

It sounds silly but my only question was can you feel it when you have sex. She assured me you shouldn’t but if you did it would just be the thread in which case go back and they can cut it abit shorter so you don’t. Phewww.

THEN the doctor says “oh it’s showing on the system you need a smear test too. We’re do that while we are here saves you making another appointment!” Are you for real I only got myself mentally ready to have the coil not a bloody smear test aswell but oh well let’s get it over and done with!

She decided to do the smear test first… ouch! (To those that don’t know what a smear test is Click here to visit the NHS website where it explains what it is and what its for). If your offered a smear test please do it. It really can save lives. My test felt extremely uncomfortable, but the doctor said I have good muscles and shouldn’t need tenna lady when I’m older. Which made me laugh and wasn’t to sure if it was a compliment I was after while she’s staring up my vagina.

Having my smear test just put me in a bad frame of mind that the coil being fitted would be worse than this…

It wasn’t. The coil was fitted and all done within a few minutes. I only had a sharp pain in my right side of my womb for a few seconds and it was done.

Im not going to lie the period type pains I had pretty mych straight after felt like mini contractions that you have when you first go into labour and I felt like absolute poo I just wanted to go home and curl up in bed. Luckily Ben helped me out and let me have a nice relaxing bath which really helped and so far today I have just had cramping like you get with any normal period. It’s manageable.

That’s it now no smear test for another 2 or 3 years and now I’m protected from getting pregnant for 5-10 years. I just need to go for a check up in 6 weeks so the doctor can see how my body has taken to it. 

Moral of the story is don’t always listen to people’s horror stories when it comes to smear tests or coil fitting. Yes it’s uncomfortable and yes some people have worse experiences than others but like we say about our children. Everyone is different and every woman has different pain thresholds. 

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Rileys Birthday Party

When your a child growing up and you have a big party where you can invite all your class friends and have 30 plus kids there. You think it’s pretty awesome and the best day ever!

I NOW SEE IT FROM AN ADULTS POINT OF VIEW!

Riley had his birthday party today (he turns 7 on Monday). This year we decided to let him have a hall with a magician/disco entertainer. Usually we either have a day out to a theme park or a small party of 5-10 kids doing bowling, trampolining or something like that.

Crazy M the entertainer we had was really good, she kept all the kids entertained AND she had a real life rabbit! Yes a real rabbit at the kids party. The kids loved it. She really was awesome with the kids and definitely helped making things less stressful.


The cake was absolutely lovely and was so pleased Thank you to Lorna (Thebakingmuma23)


That a side. It was stressful. Me & Ben paid so much money for everything and I hardly saw any of the party because I was doing drinks keeping the place tidy talking to parents making sure kids didn’t make a great escape outside, cutting cake, putting cake in party bags! Just trying to keep everyone happy.

The headache from all the screaming overexcited kids to.. wow! But at least they all had fun and an amazing time which made the money well worth it.

It was a 2 hour party and half way through I was already ready for a BIG glass of wine! 

But like I said before every single child that came had an absolutely lovely time and all told Riley what a good time they had. So it definetly made it all worth while.

One thing that does annoy me though is you invite so many people to a big birthday party and so many say that they will come (so you allocate to do enough food, party bags etc) and then they don’t even bother showing up or even letting you know that they are not coming anymore. Then when you say about it to them you get ignored!! RUDE!! I go out of my way when it’s Riley to make sure I message. firstly if he is able to come or not and then if plans change and he can’t come I let the parent know! It’s only polite and not only that opens up a space for someone else who will genuinely come! If I was paying for a party that was per head I feel like I’d send an invoice to them for wasting my money it annoys me that much! It just really infuriates me and if it was on the other foot they wouldn’t like it. There should of been 40 kids at Rileys party today that had confirmed they would be there and only 29 showed up! Really made my devil horns show it frustrated me that much!

But our little boy was not disappointed and was so grateful to everyone that came and gave him a gift or a card. Seeing his smile today made everything worth while and every single child that came was a pleasure to have as they where all good as gold.

Although I will not be in a rush to do another big party like that anytime soon!

Now where’s my glass of wine….

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Disney Kingdoms 

So anyone that knows me, knows I love everything Disney. Being a mum just gives me an excuse to relive my Disney days (not that I needed that excuse but people seem to be able to accept it more now that I do).

Anyway Riley came in one day and after seeing a advert on of corse the Disney channel asked for this new app called “Disney kingdoms” so as a good mummy as he asked so very nicely I downloaded the game onto my phone and started to let him play it….

That night I went to bed and my phone buzzed and it was this bloody game. Thought I’d be a nice mummy and do it for him so he got further in the game.. I so shouldn’t of done that…

It’s now been 2 weeks on… Riley isn’t allowed to play my phone game anymore and has his own Disney kingdoms on his iPad (when he plays my game he spends all my gems I work so hard to collect). 

I’m literally addicted to it. When ever I get 5mins to myself (which isn’t very often with a soon to be 7 year old and a 4 month old but when I do) your catch me playing this bloody game instead of doing what other parents do when they have 5mins to themselves. What do you do again? Why did Riley have to introduce me to it lol.

The only thing I find frustrating with this game is because apple have removed the game centre off the handsets you can only log into it in your settings now, you have no way of adding your friends (so I can add Riley of corse and we can help each other send items). So anyone that works within apple come on guys sort it out!!

Me & Riley sit next to each other and play this game together. He tells me some parts I need to do and I tell him others. We’re a team but with our own little Disney kingdoms. (Before anyone starts he is limited on the amount of time he plays on iPads, game consoles etc but to be honest he actually prefers drawing and writing stories his imagination is amazing). 

If you or you children like all things Disney I would highly recommend this app!

Has anyone else done something for the kids and then found they got slightly addicted to it? Let me know your guilty pleasures.

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When is the right time to wean your baby?

So yesterday I went and got our little pudding Layla weighed. She’s 14lb 5oz at 18 weeks old (just over 4 months).

The HV (Heath Visitor) asked how she was getting on so as a mum you start relaying all what your baby does “she’s rolling over, sitting up with a little assistance, getting used to her jumperaroo and she’s started having a little baby food each day”.

The HV looked at me and said we don’t recommend babies start to be weaned now until they are 6 months old due to their stomachs not being strong enough!

Sorry but what a load of bollox! Maybe for some babies like babies born prematurely etc but my baby esp is more than ready to start to be weaned. Since having half a jar of baby food at around 5pm each day she sleeps between 8-11 hours each night and anybody with a baby knows how much of a godsend that is to have some uninterrupted sleep even more so when you have a soon to be 7 year old that still needs to go to school and you still have to oversea your own business being able to do these things without wanting to fall asleep on your feet is brilliant!

When Riley was a baby it was recommended to start weaning at 4 months and if you even look at baby food you can buy most is for 4 months plus!! I was weaned from 4 months also and there’s nothing wrong with mine or my sons stomach!! 

If Layla wasn’t ready for a small amount of baby food she wouldn’t take it or she would throw it up or have the runs! But she’s absolutely perfect and actually gets excited when she sees she is going to get some food and is starting to kick up a stink she wants it when it’s getting close to feeding baby food time.

She still has the “recommended” amount of baby milk each day, baby food is a top up and getting used to all these new tastes available to her so I don’t really see what the problem was?

I’m not a first time mum, whereas if I was I’d more than likely listen to their advice but I’ve already brought one child up who’s nearly 7 years old and is perfectly healthy and happy a little gobby at times but hey he’s a child they will test the boundaries. Not that he gets away with it.

So my reply to this HV was “she is ready to be weaned she isn’t poorly or it affecting her in a negative way I have already brought one child up who is nearly 7 and was told by a HV to wean him from 4 months when he was little so I will continue weaning Layla aswell I know it’s recommended now from 6 months but that’s generic and all babies are different”. HV didn’t looked too impressed but her reply was you know your baby best and aslong as she continues to put on weight the way she has been.

Victory for me I won’t be made to feel like I am doing something wrong (heard a lot of stories where mums are made to feel like this) and sometimes HV can come across like that if you don’t follow their guidelines but YOUR NOT! 

Parents know their children best. So if you feel it’s right to wean your baby from 4 months I’d say do it but if you feel you need to wait, wait. Every baby is different and as mummies and daddies we know what is best for our little people.

It really annoys me when HV tries to make you feel bad as your not following their recommendations! There recommendations it isn’t law so you as a parent have the choice! It also annoys me when it’s a HV who doesn’t even have kids.. makes you feel like saying when you have children and understand mummy struggles then I may consider your opinion on how to raise my child. But that’s just my view on things.

Another thing to think about… when I was a baby it was recommended by HV’s to lay babies on their tummys to prevent cot death. Whereas now it’s recommended (like I done with both Riley and Layla) to lay babies on their back to prevent cot death.

I strongly believe there is no right of wrong way. Every child is different and you do what best suits your baby.


What do you think of the don’t wean babies till they are 6 Months recommendation and when did you start weaning your little ones? Let me know your thoughts and views.