Should parents be allowed to get their baby girls ears pierced?

So there is a lot of heated debates over social media at the moment on the topic of if parents should get their babies ears pierced or not. (Above picture is not of my baby by the way).

I personally don’t see what the big deal is. Each to their own. If the parents want to do that’s their choice and if when the baby is older no longer wants to wear earrings they can just take them out.

Maybe my opinion is based because my parents had my ears pierced when I was 6 months old. I certainly don’t hold it against them for doing it and if anything I’m greatful now I’m older because I can pick and choose if I wear earrings or not now as my piercing never closes up. 

The NHS say it’s a safe procedure providing its carried out by a liscenced practioner.

I haven’t got my daughters ears pierced but then if I do or don’t that’s mine and her daddy’s choice as her parents.

I’d love to hear what your views are…


Lego cards…

So the supermarket Sainsbury’s started doing for every £10 you spend in store you earn 1 pack of Lego cards….

So family and friends started collecting them for Riley (I don’t personally shop in Sainsbury’s and while these cards where available I reminded myself why… they are much more expensive than ASDA (equivalent to Walmart) or Tesco). 

Grandad was pretty awesome and managed to get hold of a box of Lego cards from someone who works at Sainsbury’s after the stopped giving them away. He got 300 packets… each packet has 4 cards so he got 1200 Lego cards. Out of all those cards did he get all 140 he needed to complete the Lego book he also got… NOPE!

So then it was down to mummy to help little man finish his book. After a week of swapping, sending cards through the post and about £20 spent on stamps I finally finished Lego cards book off. 

Riley was made up said I was super mum for helping him complete it… I however am glad to see the back of these lego cards and if I don’t see anymore I will be happy..

So thanks Sainsbury’s but please don’t be in any rush to do anything like that again 😂


Sex after birthing a baby!!

So it’s been 6 months to the day since our little Layla was born and I have had a moment tonight to reflect on what my body actually went though that day and how the thought of being intimate after giving birth can scare the life out of anyone who’s just pushed a real life person out your vagina/flower/mooey/peanut what ever you people call yours.

Despite begging the midwives to sew your flaps shut so you never have to experience pain like that again they decline, to then to just ask to add a extra stitch to make sure your not loose for that all important reunion of cock meeting fanny after the recent mutalation. They reassure you that if you do go on to have another the next baby it won’t just fall out and that your fanny will, at some point – go back to ‘normal.’ You may not believe it at the time but it is true 😬

For the first couple of weeks, your fanny will be the last thing on anyone’s mind – except of course, yours – every time your beautiful battered front bottom touches a seat and you feel like you’ve sat on glass. Having to find that comfy spot to have a pee meaning one cheek resting on the seat while the other leg is up in the air and your having to pour warm water down your fanny while you pee to stop that all mighty sting… it isn’t pretty girls. No one informs you how unglamorous it is to have a child from a woman’s point of view. 

As a result, your mind will not be on sex at this period of your life more wishing the day where you could feel human having a pee rather than feeling like a dog cocking it’s leg to have a pee or being able to sit down without making that crap I didn’t sit down properly squeak.

But Life is a cruel mistress, and a mistress that favours mankind and their serpents – because while you are wincing everytime you perch anywhere, your partners dick has remained unscathed from the act of making babies and every opportunity that snake in his pants has it will grow when your in his presence to remind you it’s still there and it’s ready to devour its prey…

So a man has needs (like they keep on and on and on reminding us about), and you can only put off a mans need to hump for so long.

However If he ever says your fanny may be out of action but your mouth is not… give him I can’t believe you fucking said that to me and if you put that devil stick anywhere near my face I’m going to bite it off you cheeky git and I will make you wait even bloody longer stare! Cause Let’s face it men can be so selfish sometimes 😂

So you put a brave face on and decide to take one for the team because you feel this isn’t going to be pretty. It isn’t. Your partners face though is likely to look like they are about to have Birthday, Christmas and new year all wrapped up into one evening and after giving strict instructions to your lover not to touch your legs (hairy) or tits (aching and most likely milking) you engage in the ol’ slap and tickle. With minimal slapping and/or tickling. 

Thinking about it though it would be funny to solider through the tit pain just so u can get him in the face with your breast milk… 10 points for anywhere on the face, extra 25 for the eyes, 15 up the nose and 50 if u get it in his mouth 🙊 

But Lets be real ok, it was never gonna be a hot passionate session with your souls reconnecting in a way that makes the stars shine and your legs go weak. It’ll probably feel like your Partner has introduced a red hot poker up your chuff, but don’t PANIC. 

Forget about your titties nesting in your armpits, because it’ll feel alright again the next time or at some point before your kid moves out or in most cases brings the new girlfriend/boyfriend into the home and they start having their own little family.

Forget about the feeling of why am I allowing something shoved in when I’ve just shoved my baby out… I don’t want another one in there!! Accidents do happen you know. 

You see people a fanny is a magical thing, they change and they grow and they do crazy stuff – some fannies are experts at ejecting babies and others make their name ejecting ping pong balls (personally I think ping pong balls are not very ambitious when us women pop babies out but hey that’s me!)

Sooooo it feels horrendous the first time, uncomfortable and your so tense because you think it’s going to make you scream (not in the way your thinking about either dirty.. but in pure pain) but you have a kid now – so you can avoid it forever by hearing ‘baby cries’ or accept that you will be having quickies for the next 18 years. 

And by quickies I literally do mean the 5 minutes you get while peppa pigs on and you know damn well your child isnt going to shout spit shit or want for anything while those annoying little pigs jump in those bloody muddy puddles!

Look at it this way, if it felt dreadful forever then no one would ever have more than one kid would they? 

Heres mine and Ben’s little cockblocks. And I honestly wouldn’t change them for the world they mean everything to me.

And just remember girls if all else fails and you don’t get your mo-jo back you can always get him a Harmony Robot 😂😂😂


Easter Half Term 2017

Wow 2 weeks of half term has come and gone rather quick and I know it sounds stupid but I’m actually looking forward to having some routine back in my life. 

I feel exhausted. It’s been my first half term where it’s me looking after both kids since Layla was born in November (Ben works nights). I was extremely lucky to have Ben off for 6 weeks after our little girl was born.

Trying to keep a 7 year old entertained and not bored during the holidays is not for the faint hearted when you have to see to a 4 month old baby, aswell as keeping a flat up together and overseeing the run of the business. Is hard work!! Multi-tasking at its finest right here!

I was not expecting these two weeks to tire me out as much as they have. I couldn’t wait for Layla’s bedtime just to chill (well more like falling asleep while my little pony is still playing). So having some routine that we have when it’s not half term I am looking forward to, although not being able to stay in my PJ’s for a extra hour I won’t be looking forward to.

So what have we done over the Easter break? Other than the normal mummy duties (the boring bits).

Well we have had our first BBQ of the year at Grandads house. We enjoyed the sunshine stuffed our faces and had a giggle. It was a very nice day.

Riley and Layla also had a day with their auntie Maezee and then a day with their auntie Jessie. The kids loved it being all silly  and burning off a lot of energy. They slept well both days so thanks girls.

We have had days just chilling at grandads house (with this nice weather we have been having it’s lovely to be able to get Riley and Layla out in the garden). 

Daddy also took us to the park for an ice cream. Riley was in his element and made a few new friends. Swear that boy can make friends anywhere, but then kids are just so innocent. Layla loved trying daddy’s ice cream for the first time….

She didn’t like daddy to much once he took the ice cream away though. (We only let her have a little bit).

Also over the half term period little lady has cut not one but two teeth!!! Thankfully now they have cut through she’s back to sleeping all through the night starting from 8/8:30pm. Although 5:30am seems to be the new wake up time.

We was lucky enough to have the bank holiday weekend with daddy. Daddy let mummy have a much needed catch up on some sleep. I could actually take one of my sleeping tablets prescribed by the doctor. I can’t take them when Ben’s working and I’m on my own with the little people. 

Daddy also gave mummy a little treat and took her to see Beauty and the Beast at the cinema. Which I loved and cannot wait to buy on DVD

Easter Sunday came round quick and we had a tasty gammon roast dinner at grandads house. Even Layla got to try one of grandads roasts. She liked it a lot. She’s a definite foody. 

Didn’t like Easter Sunday though when the bloody car decided to play up though!!!

We also booked our first lot of tickets ready for our holiday. (See previous post Holiday for 2018 is booked). Cannot wait to take Riley to swim with the dolphins. Unfortunately Layla will be too little. But it just means we get to go back and do it again for her. (Any excuse for me haha).

All in all it’s been a lovely Easter break with family and friends. Layla loved her first Easter, Riley was good and got way to much chocolate. They both enjoyed spending so much time with everyone too.

Back to routine tomorrow though…


When should you get your child a mobile phone?

So when is the right time to get your child a mobile phone?

Riley has just turned 7 and seems to think he is now old enough for a mobile phone! I don’t think so little man.

As a business women where I earn a living from selling mobile contracts with the major networks to those that have their own business or are self employed I’m surrounded by mobiles on daily basis (www.rightplancomms.co.uk). 

I have my own mobile phone. So am I being hypercritical for denying my son a mobile phone?

Hear me out. Firstly he’s 7! Am I wrong for wanting to protect him for as long as possible from the world of social media and maybe online bullying? 

You hear over and over again on documentaries and the news of children being bullied online so they have no escape.  Online bullying that can cause so many issues for a child mentally where a percentage of children take their own life!! They can’t even be at home to get away from the bullying which should feel the safest place in the world for any child. So am I not doing a good thing keeping our home this safe place for him for as long as possible by blocking his online access?

Don’t get me wrong Riley has a PS4 that he can play games etc on but we have not signed him up with a online profile so he cannot play games and talk to people around the world. I’m absolutely terrified of all this online grooming that goes on. 

He also has a IPad that he has family members numbers on so he can use FaceTime, children’s YouTube so I can keep an eye and allow what he watches and again he has games on here. He knows the rules when it comes to the Ipad. If he plays a game where other people can interact with him (roblox) he is only allowed to play these in the presence of an adult. If he breaks this rule he losses his iPad for a week and that game gets removed!

I personally don’t think a child needs a mobile until they start secondary school (around 12/13 years old). Even then though I will still try to protect both my children for as long as possible. I feel in today’s era our children are growing up well before needed. Keep them as children for as long as possible I say. 

So unfortunately Riley you have a while yet before mummy and daddy get you a mobile phone. Much to his disappointment. He will just have to make do with what he’s got! 

Am I being to strict? Am I not being strict enough? What’s your views and tips about this topic I would love to hear them.


Holiday for 2018 is booked…

So this weekend we done it 🙈 we booked a holiday for 2018. It seems so far away but we need time to save and I want to wait for Layla to be older so I can enjoy the holiday more and not have to lumber bottles formula etc with me. 

So when we go Riley will be 8 years old and Layla will be 21 months! That’s crazy to think. 

So where are we going do you ask… we are going for 2 weeks in the sunshine state Florida, to see Mickey Mouse. I cannot wait to see our little people’s faces.

This type of holiday isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but it is ours. I have been very privileged as a child to go many times with my family and I feel extremely lucky to be able to give my children holidays aswell as not every family can afford to. 

We took Riley to Florida back in 2013 when he was just 3 years old so going back has been a long time coming and there be so much more he can do now. It’s exciting to think about. He loved it then I’m sure he’s going to love it even more now! 

So our holiday count down begins the savings start. It will be worth all the hard work when we get two weeks of family fun time relaxing in our own private villa, visiting theme parks, shopping and eating in some pretty cool places.

And for the record.. I look forward to the fine from the school as we are taking our son out of school during term time cause I was not paying three thousand pound more just to go in half term. That’s our spending money!!

Where’s everyone else’s favourite places to go on holiday and when’s your favourite time to go?


Primary School Homework

My blog yesterday Should parents be allowed to take children out of school for holidays, talked about how I felt about being allowed to take my children out of school in the UK to go abroad on a family holiday.

Today I want to talk about the amount of homework primary school children get (ages 4-7).

Yesterday Riley came home from school (last day for the 2 week Easter break) with 5 pieces of homework, plus spellings and a reading diary to do. To be honest this seems to be the usual weekly amount at the moment. Is it just me or do you feel that is to much for a 7 year old? 

Homework in primary schools is not compulsory but it is officially encouraged. Seriously though does it have to be that much?

It’s been in the news lately about not being able to take children out of school during term time without facing a £60 fine per child, per parent so doesn’t that make school holidays even more important to have quality family time?

Not only that but what about parents who have more than one child at school or a baby (like myself) or even work full time for that matter! I don’t want to be spending what little quality time I have after school and during the school breaks doing homework!! 

I mean they are children, I personally think school holidays is for them to relax and unwind from all the hard work they have been doing and do what all kids want to do. Have fun and make memories. Memories are important and I be damned if my kids grow up and all they ever remember is going to school and do homework.

The only homework I will be doing with Riley this half term is his reading! If he wants to do his other homework that’s fine but it is his choice! 

I plan to have a fun half term making memories that both I and Riley can cherish in the future. That’s what having a family is all about after all!

Let me know what your views are on primary school children getting so much homework!